Friday, January 16, 2009

My Side of the Story...

Hello friends and family. I thought it might be nice if you finally heard a little from me concerning how Rebecca and I not only got together, but how our relationship has developed. Let me first say that I had gotten to a point in my dating life where I was utilizing the on-line dating scene for the last several years. I was on and had done E-Harmony as well. I'd meet a lot of very nice women; some I dated for awhile, but nothing long term. Most of my long term relationship had come in other ways and looking back shouldn't have been as long as they ended up being. Prior to meeting Rebecca I had come out of a very rough and heartbreaking relationship; but, I was determined to "get back out there" because I certainly wasn't getting any younger and there was a definite void in my life. A woman I dated a couple of times mentioned a singles web site I'd never heard of Unlike many of the other sites it was free; so I joined up, put up a profile and listed what I was looking for in a partner. Thou and behold Rebecca's profile popped up. She had some very attractive pictures posted and seemed to be looking for a lot of the same things in a relationship that I was looking for. So, I emailed her. We exchanged emails for several weeks and then I didn't hear from her. After awhile I figured she wasn't interested any longer. Rebecca had gotten a bit tired of the dating game and was taking a break. Once she got back to her emails, she saw one from me and decided to finally respond. Lucky Me.

By this time, I had begun dating another woman. I didn't think it was really going to go anywhere and while I enjoyed spending time with her; was still looking. After a few weeks of more emails we finally had a couple of phone calls. I remember one call I caught Rebecca out with her sister Sarah at TGI Friday's having dessert one night. Eventually, we had our first meeting at Fiddler's Elbow for lunch right after Thanksgiving, 2007. I was immediately impressed with her. She was attractive, bright, easy to talk to. We had several things in common including baseball among other things. It was a very enjoyable time and I could have stayed there talking to her all day. She even bought lunch which was nice and unexpected. I think she knew she wanted to see my again as well.

We started seeing one another on a regular basis, getting to know each other. I think we were both taking things slow. The other woman I had been seeing fell by the wayside. In December at a dinner at the Melting Pot in Salt Lake I told Rebecca I would like to just date her exclusively to see where this relationship might go. She wasn't quite ready to do that just yet. Dating can be like a full time job and I just wanted to spend time with here to see how things might go. Now, I also have to tell you that Rebecca has dated a number of guys named Scott over the years, so remembering my name wasn't too hard for her. I soon got to met Emma and the cats. Emma and I are continuing to learn about one another and I look forward to getting her a yard to run around and play in.

As Rebecca has written already it was March, 2008 before a Matchbox 20 concert that we started to express our feelings for one another. We were both being cautious and I was getting concerned that if she didn't have feelings for me I needed to get out of the relationship before I got hurt again. It was just after her birthday in April, 2008 that we finally said "I Love You" to one another. It has been a whirlwind since then. We started looking at wedding rings a month later and it seemed the most natural thing to do - once I got over the sticker shock!! I think my parents were quite shocked when I told them we were looking at wedding rings and they realized this was a serious relationship. I love my parents dearly, but I think they had just about given up on me ever getting married and having a finally. It just took me a long time to find the right person to be with.

I proposed in July while we were vacationing on the Oregon Coast. There was a beach right outside where we were staying and at sunset the first night there I popped the question. I don't think I could have waited any longer. What seemed like a long time to plan a wedding is not so long now because the 19th of this month marks the three month mark. Rebecca has sold her condo and mine is on its way. We're looking to buy a house and will likely be moving sometime next month. It seems like everything is falling into place for us. We have all of the big wedding plans out of the way;but, there's still plenty to do. I'm still amazed how easy our relationship has gone. Someone told me "when's its right, its just right". I've waited to long time and I now have found the love of my life. I get choked up just thinking about how much I love Rebecca. I never knew life could be so wonderful until I met her. Many people I know have commented to me that I'm just smiling all time. It's because of Rebecca's love and having her in my life. I am so excited to spend my life with her. If Emma and I can grow to love one another then all is right with the world. Now, there doesn't seem to any time to waste. 2009 will find us buying a house, getting married and having our first child; what a year this is going to be. We look forward to having you share many of these life experiences with us.

1 comment:

  1. This is so sweet to read Scott's side of your story together. I can't wait to meet him at the wedding!